You and your spouse going separate ways during the holidays?

The holiday season is fast approaching and every parent wants their children to have wonderful memories of the holidays. But November and December can also be stressful especially if you and your co-parent are separated or divorced. Here are some tips for reducing your scheduling stress this holiday season.

Keep the Communicate Chain Open

Your child custody agreement probably specifies parenting-time arrangements during the holidays, but it is always a good idea review the plan with your co-parent to make certain there are no surprises. If you know your holiday plans for the kids are going to be different this year, then it’s better to explain the situation to them well in advance rather than disclose the new plan at the last minute.

Be Flexible

If your co-parent wants to deviate from the normal parenting schedule this year, consider allowing the change. This can not only minimize conflict; your co-parent may be more likely to work with you in the future when you want to vary the schedule.

Keep your Children’s Best Interest at Heart

The most important thing for divorced parents to remember is that the holidays are about their children, not them. Even if you are unable to be with your children during the holiday break, encourage them to enjoy themselves with the other parent. Try to embrace the spirit of the holiday season, let go of anger and be thankful for what you have. If have disputes that raises legal questions, then contact me for a consultation and we can discuss the situation. In some cases, a modification of the child custody arrangement may be in order.

I wish you a happy and peaceful holiday.